No worries about the name :) As for fetishization, maybe there are degrees. I don't know. Until we get some hard data/studies on this, we'll have to rely on our lived experiences as minorities. In my experience, at least, Asian fetishization is not rare. There's a long history of it, stemming from the Vietnam War and the Korean War and narratives like Madame Butterfly and Miss Saigon. And even if we get hard data, I think many people are unaware of their unconscious biases. So it'll have to be a bigger discussion than "do you have an Asian fetish?" As a community, we need to have uncomfortable discussions about what it means to fetishize Asian people, Black people, Latinx people, etc. etc.

And I dunno, I might have to disagree with you about the hypothetical liking-only-and-everyone-who's-blonde situation. While it may not be racist (because blondes are just a small part of the white ethnicity), I'd still call it problematic and discriminatory :/